Like a maniac shooting flaming arrows of death, is one who deceives their neighbor and says, “I was only joking!”
Proverbs 26:18-19 NIV
Words possess an incredible power, often surpassing our initial intentions. This study explores the profound importance of honouring God with our words, even in our most casual conversations. The Bible consistently reminds us that our speech reflects our heart. Moreover, it carries significant spiritual weight, influencing both ourselves and those around us.
We serve a God who spoke the entire world into existence. This divine act demonstrates that words are not empty sounds. Instead, they function as creative forces. As followers of Christ, therefore, we are called to a high standard of speech. Indeed, our humour and everyday conversations should be just as sanctified as our prayers.
Often, people use the phrase “I was only joking” as a defence. They employ it to excuse words which have actually caused harm, doubt, or discouragement. To speak positively and protect our fellow believers, we must understand the spiritual weight embedded within our seemingly “light” conversations.
First, consider the reality of impact over intent. While your heart may not intend to cause pain, the “flaming arrow” of a sharp joke could kill or leave a wound (Proverbs 26:18-19). Divine speech prioritises the well-being of the listener. Therefore, it considers their feelings above the cleverness of any wit.
Furthermore, God instructs us to build others up. Ephesians 4:29 states that only helpful words should come from our mouths. Consequently, if a joke relies on demeaning someone, highlighting a weakness, or flirting with sin, it fails this crucial test of edification. Our commitment to honouring God with our words means we seek to uplift, not tear down.
Finally, we must steward our influence carefully. Your words can either create a bridge towards God’s peace or become a stumbling block. This block might lead someone into insecurity or resentment. Being a “stumbling block” is a serious matter in scripture. Therefore, we are responsible for how our freedom in speech affects the faith of those around us. Ultimately, our speech should make God’s grace visible, even in our laughter. Our humour should bring joy and connection, never subtle destruction.
Applying God’s Wisdom to Our Speech
Take time to audit your humour. Think back to recent occasions when you used phrases like “just kidding” or “it was only a joke.” Was that humour used to mask a criticism or a potential damage? Alternatively, did it genuinely bring light-hearted joy to everyone involved, including the person being joked about?
Consider the weight of a “silent” fall. Is there someone in your life who has grown quiet or distant after a “joke” made at their expense? Your words may have become a stumbling block to their confidence or spirit. Moreover, you can use positive words today to restore what was bruised within them.
Set a guard before you speak or share a joke. Ask yourself this question: “Does this word carry life or a hidden sting?” Practise the discipline of pausing. This ensures your humour is always flavoured with salt and grace, rather than sarcasm or cynicism.
Living It Out
The Holy Spirit guides us in taming our tongues. When you commit your speech to God, He provides the wisdom for joyful and holy words. You will not lose your sense of humour by honouring God; rather, you gain a brand of joy that leaves no one wounded.